Sexting: Private Pleasure, Public Spectacle

Although most of us feel as if we have a good idea about what sexting is, many are still unaware as to the true meaning and how widespread sexting is among this generation.

Sending racy (causing ​slight ​shock because ​sex is ​mentioned or ​suggested) texts to love interests or significant others has become an integral part of 21st century dating culture. The concept is called “sexting,” and as it turns out, it’s not just used by hormone-charged teenagers: more than 80% of adults do it too.  Aged 18 to 82.”

http://www.businessinsider.com/how-common-is-sexting-2015-8

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Let us get a better understanding of sexting by taking a look at a definition out of the Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

Sexting

the sending of sexually explicit messages or images by cell phone

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If you ever sent or received a message of anything sexually related, or revealing images you were partaking in sexting.  This trend is growing rapidly amongst men and women alike over a broad spectrum of ages.

“A recent Harris Interactive poll found that one in five Americans sext or share racy text messages with others on their smartphones.

Sponsored by Lookout Mobile Security, the results of the 2,097 adults surveyed focused on a particular rising trend -- adult sexting. While the convention may be popular among text-savvy teens, sexting has become more prevalent among older generations, as one in 10 baby boomers (those born between 1946 to 1964) surveyed admitted to sending or receiving explicit photos.

Though the Lookout survey revealed habitual sexting among baby boomers and parents -- one out of five moms and dads -- the largest percentage of 'sexters' still falls within the 18- to 34-year old category, at 40 percent. Between men and women, the largest number of males who sext are between 18 and 34, while women who sext tend to be older, in the 35- to 44-year-old range.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/08/adult-sexting_n_1581234.html

WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?

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So what’s so bad about it? No harm in sharing an image is there? Well, let us remember that our opinion is vain and it is the Most High’s thoughts and feelings toward it that we must consider.

 Isaiah 55:8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.

One must first examine the intent and the spirit behind sexting. Let us examine a few points for your consideration.

1. You take a very revealing or nude photo, or send a variety of explicit messages to a person of interest. This is synonymous to pornography. Let us examine the definition using the same dictionary.

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Pornography

1: the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement

2: material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement

3: the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction

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The goal is to have something to lust after, to see as much nakedness of the other person as possible. Otherwise we would just send regular photos and be fine. But the goal is to have your senses stimulated by what you see and read. This is pornography, and by doing so you are in violation of fornication and lust, and are going outside of the Most High’s set order of marriage.

Romans 13:14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.

2. This person of interest can vary from an associate, friend, someone you are interested in or possibly dating, and maybe your spouse. However, your spouse is the only one who should be seeing your nakedness, and that is after you have completed all of the marriage requirements and finally consummate the marriage.  Any sexual relationship outside of marriage is fornication.  For example, let us say you are courting (talking with interest and the intent to marry) this would be what most would relate to as dating (hereby two people meet socially for companionship, beyond the level of friendship, or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner).  Through all this you are sending pornographic images and things don’t work out, well now you have both seen each other’s nakedness and now so will the next person, you are now prostituting your body, even though that may not be your intention. Look at the origin or pornography.

Origin of Pornography

Greek pornographos, adjective, writing about prostitutes, from pornē prostitute + graphein: to write; akin to Greek pernanai to sell, poros journey — more at fare, carve

You have to understand that these acts only further entice you and strengthens your desires, not diminishes them, and will cause you to make a foolish decision or unlawful act.

James 1:14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.

You are enticing yourself through your own lust and desires, which can lead you to consummating a marriage for all of the wrong reasons.

Exodus 22:16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.

Proverbs 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

Proverbs 6:23-26 [23] For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:  [24] To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. [25] Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. [26] For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.

The laws and commandments are your guide and filter to weed out those that are just talk, those that just want to fulfill the lust of the flesh, or those that may not be serious or ready for marriage. A righteous man or woman isn’t going to be taking nude images of themselves and sending them so that people can be filled with their beauty, but a whore and a whoremonger will.

3. Most likely you don’t want the person you shared the image or text with to share the image or message with others. So you don’t want others seeing what is on your phone/ computer or other electronic device, and unless the both of you are in a serious and committed relationship you may not be that confident in the secrecy of that information.

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Sirach 6:7 If thou wouldest get a friend, prove him first and be not hasty to credit him.

There is another trend that is also popular due to the high amounts of sexting; revenge porn. The title itself also gives away what it is once again; porn.

DOWNSIDE OF POSTING AND SHARING

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Question: Hey Guys,

I recently broke up with my ex boyfriend who I have been dating for about 2 years. We broke up because he cheated on me while he was on tour with his band. He has a few pictures of me that are very racey and I know that he is that kind of guy to post pictures out of revenge. Especially when he knows it could ruin my Pin up modeling career. If you guys could help me out that would be sooo awesome and thank you!

Response: the internet in general. once its out it will be out there forever, and probably downloaded 1 million times the first 15 seconds

http://www.girlsaskguys.com/other/q1138107-what-websites-do-guys-post-pictures-of-their-ex-girlfriends

You have a number of websites (Yougotposted, IsAnyoneUp, Anonib, MyEx, etc.) dedicated to revenge porn. So let us get more clarification as to what revenge porn is.

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“Revenge porn websites circulate and distribute sexually explicit images of individuals online without their consent. These images are typically submitted to these websites by vengeful ex-romantic partners or spouses in an effort to harm the reputations of their former lovers.”

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https://juneverlasting.wordpress.com/2015/03/06/2015-big-year-for-criminalization-of-revenge-porn/

In the case of revenge porn, women make up more than 95 percent of reported victims.  The unauthorized sharing of sexualized images is still not illegal in the majority of US states. Twenty-two states now have laws on the books and proposed national legislation is due next month.  (Every state has it's own flavor of related laws. You can check your state here).”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/a-primer-on-online-misogyny-revenge-porn-is-only-one-dimension_b_7691900.html

Now in these situations who do you blame? You can blame whoever you want, from your person of interest to the phone company, but at the end of the day who took and sent the photo? Most likely it was you unless the person set up secret cameras somewhere.

You and that other person should be on one accord, closer then friends.

4. You have a raised concern that in the event your electronic device is either lost, stolen, or in the possession of a friend or family member (who was just innocently looking to see pictures of you or other friends and family and they see more of you then what was intended). You are now faced with shame,  or guilt as to why you didn’t immediately delete the picture or message after viewing, and why you kept it for memories or later viewing. And may even be mad at the person who accidentally saw it.

James 4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?

No matter how you cut it you would not have had any problems had you not taken the picture.

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Christian school places teacher on leave after photos from stolen phone post to revenge porn website. A teacher at a Christian school in Cincinnati, Ohio was placed on administrative leave after school officials discovered a nude photo of her on a so-called revenge porn website. The teacher resigned soon after, according to a spokesperson for Cincinnati Hills Christian Academy.

“The woman is already a victim,” one parent told WCPO. “But this being a Christian school, parents are upset that a teacher is even taking naked pictures and sending them to people — and … her students are old enough to get online and Google their teacher’s name and the photos come up.”

While this woman’s photos appear to have been made public without her consent, she isn’t the first to lose a job over nude photos.”

http://www.salon.com/2013/12/09/christian_school_places_teacher_on_leave_after_photos_from_stolen_phone_post_to_revenge_porn_website/

Galatians 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

Now you have to deal with the embarrassment of your privacy being exposed publically to the World Wide Web. Even if you hit delete, is it gone forever?

DOES IT EVER GO AWAY?

“Perhaps because of a false belief that deleted text messages stay buried, many people rely on text messaging to carry out their dirty work, such as stealing trade secrets and other intellectual property, violating non-compete agreements and committing fraud. Even Foreign Corrupt Practices Act investigations involving bribery and price-fixing regularly run into text messaging.

"Text messages are now involved in most litigation or investigations we encounter," says Paul Luehr, formerly a federal prosecutor and supervisor of the Internet fraud program at the Federal Trade Commission and current managing director at Stroz Friedberg, a global data risk management company with a cyber-crime lab.”

http://www.cio.com/article/2378005/byod/byod-think-deleted-text-messages-are-gone-forever-think-again.html

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“Emails are the everlasting evidence,” said Mindy Chapman, an attorney and president of New York consulting group Mindy Chapman and Associates. “Just because you hit delete doesn’t mean that email is gone for good. There are backup files and servers that emails will stay on forever.”

http://www.hbsdealer.com/article/everlasting-evidence-emails-are-forever

http://blog.newegg.com/digital-life-forever-remembered/

Based on the information provided we can conclude that once you hit that send button in the form of a text or email that, that information is out there, and just because you hit delete that does not mean that same information cannot be retrieved. This should encourage one to think twice about anything you send.

Other Info to Research

http://gizmodo.com/5963883/heres-where-the-naked-pics-you-sexted-will-end-up

http://jumpwireless.org/never-share-online/

4 Responses

  1. evidenceunseen
    Excellent information, especially for the unlearned --- Thawadah (Thx)
  2. lacham ahmath
    great article my brother I love Galatian 5:16!! thanks man for writing that my brother
  3. lacham ahmath
    great article my brother I love Galatian 5:16!!
  4. parah
    Excellent information and a priceless reminder how we as Israelites should conduct ourselves: Philippians 2:15 KJV 15 That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;

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