A lot of the time friendships are destroyed over the silliest reasons. For example, let’s say you have two friends: one named Ashley and the other Paige. So one day Ashley comes up to you to tell you that Paige has been talking about you behind your back. Instead of going to Paige to see if it’s true and to correct her on her actions, you get mad and stop talking to her completely or worse you start a physical altercation with her based on what Ashley has told you. Situations like this put an end to friendships all the time. But how does the Most High tell us to handle such situations?
“Admonish a friend, it may be he hath not done it: and if he have done it, that he do it no more. Admonish thy friend, it may be he hath not said it: and if he have, that he speak it not again” (Ecclesiasticus 19:13-14).
The Most High tells us to ADMONISH, not to ignore and walk away from those who have dealt with us wrongfully or to pick fights with them. For as it says in Ecclesiasticus 19:17, “Admonish thy neighbour before thou threaten him; and not being angry, give place to the law of the most High.” Because even if what that person did to you was something you would consider unforgivable, according to the law you are still required to rebuke their unlawful actions so that that person does not continue to repeatedly do them (Ezekiel 33:1-9).
Ezekiel 33:7-9 “So thou, O son of man, I have set thee a watchman unto the house of Israel; therefore thou shalt hear the word at my mouth, and warn them from me. When I say unto the wicked, O wicked man, thou shalt surely die; if thou dost not speak to warn the wicked from his way, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand. Nevertheless, if thou warn the wicked of his way to turn from it; if he do not turn from his way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul”.
Another important aspect of this situation that people need to realize is that not everything that people tell you about another is true. Ecclesiasticus 19:15 says, “Admonish a friend: for many times it is a slander, and believe not every tale.” Many times people tell lies about others to break up or cause problems in a friendship, but if you are “giving place to the law” then you would not accuse someone based off of what you hear from others. Instead you would first assess the situation and then give judgment.
Don’t be swift to run with what others tell you about your friends or anyone for that matter, because not all the time is it the truth. But in that instance in which what someone has told you about another proves to be truthful, deal with them according to the law. Not according to your anger with them or according to how bad they hurt your feelings, but according to the law of the Most High so that in whatever instance you may be accounted blameless.
Consider This Scripture As Well:
Matthew 18:15-17 “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican”.