1st Timothy 2:9; “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety;…”

Modest – Having or showing a moderate or humble estimate of one’s merits, importance, free from vanity, egotism, boastfulness, or great pretensions.

Shamefacedness – Showing modesty or bashful.

When we think of the word “modest”, we seem to associate it with apparel, but what about our actions? Are they modest? Just because we appear to be, doesn’t necessarily mean we are. Our actions speak much about us. They overpower the head cover, long skirt and long sleeve blouse.

Some things we don’t even realize that we do. Unless someone brings it to our attention, we will continue to do it. Remember Most High tells us we are supposed to look out for each other.

Ecclesiasticus 19:13; “Admonish a friend, it may be he hath not done it: and if he have done it, that he do it no more.”

Everyone thinks and feels different about EVERYTHING. What seems modest to me might not be to my sister and what seems modest to my sister might not be to me.

1st Corinthians 1:10; “Now I beseech you brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.”

Let’s help each other be like our foremothers, beautiful and modest inside & out. Instead of making faces, rolling our eyes, or talking behind their back, pull the sister to the side or get together on another occasion and compare notes on being modest. You might be surprised to find so many differences. Whatever you do don’t send an email or text, it is so impersonal and can be misinterpreted. It is always better to do things in person so there are no misunderstandings.

Proverbs 27:17; “Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.”

The following are a few things I see on a daily that women do that seems/looks to be for attention, but can simply be that they don’t realize how it looks to others.

  • Bending over without bending the knees.

Here we are exposing not only the breast area but our behind is pointed out. The best way to bend is to bend your knee and kind of squat down. If you cant bend that way and really need to bend with out bending the knee, hold your blouse or dress top close to your chest with one hand so your breast are not exposed to everyone.

  • Being on the floor on all fours

Here we are also exposing the breast area and our behind is also pointed out. There is no need to be on the floor in outdoor areas in this position, but yes I have seen many women doing it. If you need to sit on the floor simply sit down no need for anything extra.

  • Standing up with dress/skirt tight to the body

Here we are exposing our behind completely. This tends to happen when you are sitting down for a long period of time. To avoid this from happening before you stand hold your dress/skirt by your knee and pull gently to the side as you stand.

  • Wearing loose tanks or using see through material


To avoid both of these is to simply wear a tight fitting tank underneath and definitely a bra. Some cotton shirts if they are lighter in color when they stretch they are completely see through and you are exposing your whole top side.

  • Standing with an exaggerated posture

 (Disregard the pants)

Standing in this fashion doesn’t look proper, and it can cause back pain and damage your back in the long run. Avoid it by standing normal no need to stick anything out.


  • Sitting properly

The proper way for a woman to sit is upright with her legs either closed together or crossed.  Never sit with your legs open.

  • Walking and switching the hips

Although this woman looks modest, if she is walking exaggerating her hip movements from side to side as the women in the picture below, it makes her look like she is not. All you need to do is walk normal and straight.

I hope this helps us all check ourselves and our sisters. Remember we are not supposed to be temptresses.  Let’s not put our brother’s in a position for them to be tempted.

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Leave your thoughts and comments below. What else do you see that we as sisters can change to be the virtuous women that Most High requires us to be?

Proverbs 31:10; “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.”

Titus 2:7  “In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,” v8. “Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.


  1. Great observation sister! I also like how you arranged this article, VERY THOROUGH. I know I’m guilty of never examining my physical mannerisms because my intentions are in the right place, but after reading this article I realize there is need to peep myself and see if I do any of the above unconsciously, just to be on the safe side 🙂

  2. Love the article Ruthy , very detailed an straight to the point…

  3. I agree with you Sister Taza, a check myself note! I don’t want to be nothing like the unrighteous women I see out there. And another thing that is sad is that when something isn’t right it’s talked about with everyone else instead of it brought to the attention of that one person. If I’ve done anything wrong bring it to me please, I want to become that women the Most High favors, and sees deserving of the Kingdom. AND vis versa. Thank you Ruthy, great article Sis!

    • I agree with you Kawadah, true indeed. We must solve our issues in the moment, talk with the right person, and then if there is no resolve, escalate the issue according to the scriptural direction the Most High has given us. I know it’s hard since gossiping is a common practice when in the world, but once we transition out of the world and desire God’s grace and mercy, we have to try our best to follow God’s protocol.

  4. Great “Observation”! Great comments for all to take heed, We all need to get it together now . Sister! We don’t have anyone else to lean on for support in this world except for Christ and each other! Keep each other straight in this journey in winning the Kingdom of heaven.

  5. Thank you very much sisters! All praises to the Most High and Yahawashi.

  6. Lots of great and very useful information…good job Sis!! 🙂

  7. Love it!!

  8. great post sis and i agree we should all come together and compare notes on modesty so we all are on one accord

  9. Very inspirational and an eye opener. Loved this article I’m taking mental notes

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