Ecclesiasticus 19:29-30; “29 A man may be known by his look, and one that hath understanding by his countenance, when though meetest him. 30 A man’s attire, and excessive laughter, and gait, shew what he is.”
My mother would always tell me to be careful who I hung out with, because although I was a good person I would be judged the same as those I considered my friends. She would say “Dime con quien andas y te dire quien eyes”. It means, “tell me who you with and I will tell you who you are.” When I was young I didn’t see or understand the truth behind this. As I got older I completely understood what she meant, but that still didn’t help me separate myself. I felt like, well that’s them not me, I know I’m not a harlot, who cares what anyone thinks. It wasn’t until I came into the truth that I truly understood and finally began to separate myself from the people that were bad influences and people with the bad reputations. It was hard at first but understanding that it can cost me my salvation made it easy.
Ecclesiaticus 20:22; “There is that destroyeth his own soul through bashfulness, and by accepting of persons overthroweth himself.”
You might think that you are not being influenced but you are and people around you will notice. We might be dressed modestly but that is not where it ends. Our actions speak louder than words. If you look around you will see women, young and old, that might look modest but then they do certain body movements, facial expressions, say things with a double meaning or are hanging out with half naked women. How does that make them look? What would you consider them? You would probably consider them as being the same as their friends. Think about whom you hang out with and the changes you need to make.
Proverbs 13:20; “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
1st Corinthians 15:33; “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”
Let’s break it down to understand. When you think of a harlot what comes to your mind?
A woman that’s half naked, she can be wearing a long dress but it’s so tight it looks like pants, maybe wearing something see through, she is probably loudly obnoxious, wants to be noticed, wears lots of makeup, always looking around a room to see who is looking at her, tries to make eye contact with any male, walks by a male and tries to rub against him “accidentally”, sits between a males legs, preys on a weak man, or they will say things with a double meaning that’s sexual in nature. I have also heard people talk about the woman that take all those selfies with the duck face. It can also be that a woman worries too much about what she is wearing and makes it her main concern. A harlot isn’t going to be necessarily everything mentioned above and I’m sure I missed a lot of what a harlot can be, but you get the point.
Proverbs 7:10-11; “10 And, behold, there met him woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart. 11 She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house”
1st Samuel 16:7; “But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for the man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.”
Ecclesiasticus 11:4; “Boast not of thy clothing and raiment, and exalt not thyself in the day of honour: for the works of the Lord are wonderful, and his works among men are hidden.”
We need to first and foremost check ourselves. What are we doing that can put us in that harlot category? If we have daughters, that should be another one of our main concerns. I have seen young girls that fit into the harlot category and I always wonder, where are your parents, did they not see you walk out of the house looking like that? There have also been times when the parent is next to their child when they are dressed inappropriate or even acting with harlot mannerisms and the parent says nothing. I don’t understand it. I remember when we were watching the movie Belle during women’s class and we were to look at the differences between the movie setting in the 18th century and now. The main thing that stood out to me was the way the elder women took care of the daughters and were great examples to them. It is very sad that you hardly see that nowadays.
Ecclesiasticus 7:24-25; “24 Hast thou daughters? have a care of their body, and shew not thyself cheerful toward them. 25 Marry thy daughter, and so shalt though have performed a weighty matter: but give her a to a man of understanding.”
For the young ladies that are not yet married, be patient and your time will come when the Most High says so, and it will be perfect. Don’t try to make it happen beforehand. Listen to the advice of your parents and remember the steps of marriage. Keep your focus on the Most High and what the Most High requires. That will definitely help you make it through.
You can also check out this article for more on modesty:
Deuteronomy 23:17; “There shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel…”