Her Friend, the Green-Eyed Monster

The green-eyed monster loves to visit us women!

Who exactly is this monster?

ENVY not wanting anyone to have that which you can’t have

JEALOUSY desiring what someone else has

Does it bother you when people around you are being blessed with good things like jobs, good relationships and material things and you’re not?  Do you find yourself content when others around you fail or are somewhat suffering?  Does this feeling of contentment intensify when someone you are not too fond of fails or suffers?

These types of feelings are in fact the spirit of envy and jealousy looking to make a home in your spirit.

As far as I can remember, that monster has been lurking around waiting for my most vulnerable moment to come a-knockin!  In kindergarten, I carpooled with my cousin to school and I would be jealous of the much fancier lunch he had than me.  In high school, I remember being jealous of the girl that had the thick hair that never got messed up in the wind.

As I got older, I would hide this emotion…I thought well, sure I am feeling it, but I just don’t have to say anything.  If I kept this emotion hidden away, it couldn’t cause me any trouble.

Wrong again!  Keeping my green-eyed friend at a distance didn’t really help either.  I may not have voiced what I was feeling, but my spirit was being denied a real chance to live in peace, to live in righteousness.

“For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.”  Proverbs 6:34

Once I accepted the truth and learned the ways of the Most High and Christ, I realized that JEALOUSY AND ENVY ARE LETHAL TO MY SPIRIT.  It is crucial that I remain circumspect and discern when this spirit is trying to take root in me and destroy it first before it destroys me.

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:”  I Peter 5:8

So, the next time our green-eyed friend decides to stop by unannounced as he usually does, look first to see who’s at the door and don’t open it!

The scriptures teach us that humility is the first remedy for any spiritual defect.  When we learn to appreciate the things that we have,  we can also be happy for the blessings that the Most High has given to others.  When others are going through affliction, let’s help each other and learn to GENUINELY comfort each other.   Otherwise, we will become like the crabs in a bucket bringing each other down to falsely lift ourselves up and that destroys the morality of the nation we are helping to build.  Be strong my sisters!

“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” Hebrews 13:5

“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”  James 5:16





  1. Thanks for the post Sis, this is so very true.

    • It is soooooo true!!!! We have to appreciate our own blessings!!

  2. Shalom Daughters of Israel, enjoyed the article. It is prevalent how that kind of spirit plagues women,especially with the TV programs of today.

  3. This is so very true!

  4. Great article Parah, and true indeed, I liked your phrase, “jealousy and envy are lethal…” , your article may influence many to throw away these sinful things and save their soul from such poison that leads to death. Tawab!

  5. Great Article Parrah!

  6. Hi MS. Parah!
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