Yes, you read that right! I LOVE MY HUSBAND MORE THAN MY KIDS!! This statement only comes as a shock because we live in a culture where at special family dinners the kids have moved from sitting at the extra card table to the head of the table! Never think that you are doing your children a favor by prioritizing them over your husband. You’re not. It’s out of order. When can disorder bring harmony? Never.
First and foremost, never, ever forget that the FIRST love between a husband and his wife must be the obeying of the commandments:
I John 5:3: “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.”
You cannot love your husband, or your wife for that matter, above the commandments of the Most High. So in other words, if your husband decides not to follow the ways of the Most High, you cannot disobey the commandments for the sake of loving and keeping the peace with your husband.
Jeremiah 2:33: “Why trimmest thou thy way to seek love? therefore hast thou also taught the wicked ones thy ways.”
It is also important to remember that your husband has been assigned to guide you, protect you, nourish your bond and is commanded to love you as Christ loves the Church! This is by far a much more superior love than that of a parent and child.
In Genesis, it is written that the husband and wife are ONE flesh, not the kids and the mom. Our kids may come from within us, but we are not ONE with them.
Genesis 2:23-24: “23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Don’t get me wrong, without a doubt, I would give my life for my kids in a heartbeat. I love them as my own flesh. But my love for my husband is different and above even that. My children were born as a result of the love between me and my husband and have been taught under the umbrella of that love. How can I love the result more than the love itself which came first? Why would I not want to prioritize the love which brought forth the beautiful gift of my children?
The scriptures also state that the elder women are to teach the younger women to prioritize their husband before their children:
Titus 2:4: “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to (1) love their husbands, and (2) to love their children.”
The Most High and Christ command that:
“All things be done decently and in order.” I Corinthians 14:40.
It is right to love The Most High and Christ FIRST and ABOVE ALL as it is our duty. (Ecclesiastes 12:13). That is order. (Luke 14:26). My husband is my head, why not love him first and above my children? Is that not order?
It is important that our children learn the ways and order of the Most High and Christ so that they will one day be ONE with their spouses and teach their children the same and pass on the legacy of righteousness. (Psalms 78:5-7).
My love for my children is VERY GREAT and comes more naturally, hence why it takes much less effort. So with that in mind, yes, my marriage is priority number one, especially since it is what made my family and it is what will stay after my kids flee the nest.
Harmony is achieved in order. Loving my husband more than my kids is order.