The destroyer attacked me like nothing I’d ever felt before. My feet and fists were everywhere, swinging, but striking nothing. For every one punch I blocked, five more hit me on my side, my face, my nose and my stomach. I fell to my knees. Grasping for breath, blood trickled down over my eyes and spat out from my mouth. The destroyer just gawked at me. And when I could fight no more, when I could only see tiny specs of white in a black sky, and as the destroyer lifted his hand to strike me once more, it was then when she, who was of me, surprisingly threw the final jab knocking me face down on the floor. My wife, and not the destroyer, finished me.
These I imagine would have been the words of Job in describing how he must have felt after losing all his carnal possessions, having had all his children put to death, and then having been plagued with boils from his head to his feet, to then hear his wife say,
Job 2:9: “…Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die.”
These were the words of she who was supposed to be Job’s rib, his best friend, his tower AGAINST death!! Yet she spoke the words that delivered the final blow! Very little was written about Job’s wife, but the few speaks volumes about the wife we OUGHT NOT to be.
Affliction should not be considered “strange” when we are going through it nor should it be an excuse to break the commandments. And it is most definitely not a time to curse the Most High. Affliction is a natural part of our calling as it reads:
1 Thessalonians 3:3: “That no man should be moved by these afflictions: for yourselves know that we are appointed thereunto.”
It is precisely then when we need most our “manly stomachs” (II Maccabees 7:21), when we need to endure (Matthew 24:13), and most importantly fear the power of the Most High (Hebrews 10:31).
Because the Most High created a woman to support and bring joy to her husband, it is incumbent upon women who profess faith in Christ, to help bind their husbands closer to Christ and persist in encouraging them in times of great trial and tragedy. It is only thus that a woman functions as our Creator meant her to be, as an “help meet” (Genesis 2:18)− a suitable mate.
Love The Most High First
No matter the greatness of the pain, remember always to LOVE the Most High first! Even if all seems bleak, hopeless, and full of despair, keep yourself pure and fulfill that which is your whole duty:
- Ecclesiasticus 12:13: “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.”
- Ecclesiasticus 1:27-28 (Apocrypha): “For the fear of the Lord is wisdom and instruction: and faith and meekness are his delight. Distrust not the fear of the Lord when thou art poor: and come not unto him with a double heart.”
- Hebrews 13:6: “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my Helper and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.”
Fear The Power Of The Most High And Pray
When the fires of affliction are turned up, be STILL, fall on your knees and PRAY and greatly FEAR the power of the Most High:
- Hebrews 10:31: “It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. ”
- Psalms 46:9-11: “9 He maketh wars to cease unto the end of the earth; he breaketh the bow, and cutteth the spear in sunder; he burneth the chariot in the fire. 10 Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. 11 The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge. Selah.”
- Deuteronomy 32:39: “See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god with me: I kill, and I make alive; I wound, and I heal: neither is there any that can deliver out of my hand.”
- Proverbs 16:7: “When a man’s ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him.”
Trust In The Most High
When has the Most High not come through with anything He has said? His word is perfect. His love is perfect. He is perfect. Why would we not trust in Him?
- Proverbs 16:20: “He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the LORD, happy is he.”
- Jeremiah 17:7: “Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is.”
- Proverbs 29:25: “The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe.”
Be One With Your Husband
One of the first commandments regarding marriage is to be ONE with your spouse. Be of ONE mind. That means you both are seeking to please the Most High first. You both are living a life of constant repentance. You both together unite in times of peace and especially in times of adversity.
- Genesis 2:24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
- Amos 3:3: “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
- I Corinthians 11:17: “Now in this that I declare unto you I praise you not, that ye come together not for the better, but for the worse.”
Be A True Friend
Your best friend in life should be your spouse, hands down!! A true friend will help you in times of need, will encourage and support you keeping the commandments especially when you are weak, and will keep themselves pure in order to be able to continue to be a friend and help you.
- Ecclesiastes 4:9-10: “9Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. 10For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.”
Always Be A Tower Against Death
Especially when times are difficult and the spirits of our husbands may be weakened or low, our spiritual fortress of strength should be ready to offer a helping hand to prevent evil.
- Ecclesiasticus 26:22: “…But a married woman is a tower against death to her husband.”
- Proverbs 31:21: “She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.”
In times of affliction, we must remain very patient. We are not on our own time clock.
- Romans 12:12: “Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer.”
- Ecclesiastes 7:8: “Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.”