Losing Yourself

There comes a point in a person’s life in which, without even realizing it, they’ve lost themselves.  They wake up one day and notice that they have fallen so far from where they are supposed to be, that getting back on track seems almost impossible.  It is a point in which one’s priorities have become mixed up and actions have become unrecognizable.  A point in which looking in the mirror, a total stranger appears to be looking back.   But what is one to do when they have reached this point in life? And how are they supposed to get back on the right path?

Many things can cause a person to lose themselves: death of a loved one, family drama, etc… And often times these events make us not want to care anymore.  They make us not want to care about what others think.  They make us not care about doing the right thing.  Such events can make a person not want to care about anything.  And because of the feeling of not wanting to care, one finds themselves falling into transgression after transgression, sin after sin, and wrong doing after wrong doing.

So once again I ask, what is one to do when they realize that they need to start caring again?  What are they to do when they realize that “not caring” is digging a hole for themselves which will eventually become too big for them to climb out of?  And how does one get their life and actions back into correlation with scriptures?

The answer is this…

“My son, prove thy soul in thy life, and see what is evil for it, and give not that unto it” (Ecclesiasticus 37:27). 

The first step to getting back on the right path is to identify what it is that you are doing that goes against what the Most High, Christ, and the scriptures say.  Now being in the truth, the obvious answer to that question is that if one has begun to lose themselves it is because they have began to sin.  What kind of sin?  Well that can only be determined by the individual of course, but regardless of the type of sin being committed, at the end of the day, sin is sin and if one is truly serious about pulling themselves together, sin must be the first thing to go.  For as the scriptures say, “Flee from sin as from the face of a serpent: for if thou comest near it, it will bite thee” (Ecclesiasticus 21:2). 

“Say not, I have sinned, and what harm hath happened unto me? For the Lord is longsuffering, he will no wise let the go.  Concerning propitiation, be not without fear to add sin unto sin: and say not, His mercy is great; he will be pacified for the multitude of my sins: for mercy and wrath cometh from him, and his indignation resteth upon sinners” (Ecclesiasticus 5:4-6).  As I said before, many things cause a person to lose themselves but none of those reasons are an excuse with the Most High. Regardless of what is going on in your life, one needs to remember that sinners don’t sit well with God and as the scriptures say “He hath commanded no man to do wickedly, neither given he any man license to sin” (Ecclesiasticus 15:20).

“Turn again to the most High, and turn away from iniquity: for he will lead thee out of darkness into the light of health, and hate thy abomination vehemently” (Ecclesiasticus 17:26).  Getting thrown off course is something that is bound to happen to the best of us which is why the most important thing is that you realize you took a wrong turn somewhere and that upon that realization you find your way back to the right path.  For as the scriptures say, “Make no tarrying to turn to the Lord, and put not off from day to day: for suddenly shall the wrath of the Lord come forth, and in thy security thou shalt be destroyed, and perish in the day of vengeance” (Ecclesiasticus 5:7).

Often times when life gets hard we forget to turn to the Lord for help.  Instead we foolishly believe that we can deal with things on our own.  But it is this mentality that causes a person to lose themselves and be thrown off track, and it is this mentality that causes a person to fall into sin.    For whether we choose to believe it or not, we can’t handle the whole world on our own.  Which is why, for this reason, we are given the opportunity to receive his help, guidance and comfort; granted we ask for it.  For as the scriptures say, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: for everyone that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.  Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?  Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?  If ye, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?” (Matthew 7:7-11).

So does life get hard? Of course! And do unfortunate things and situations take place? Definitely!  But regardless of how hard life gets or how unfortunate a situation is, we must always remember that everything we do must be done in righteousness, because it is only with righteousness that we will overcome whatever obstacles come our way (Matthew 24:13).  And yes, things in life happen and sometimes these things make us want to give up and quit, they make us want to lash out and do things we know in our hearts we shouldn’t do (Romans 7:19-25).  But we must always remember that a terrible situation or event won’t stay terrible forever (1 John 2:17).  So cling to the Most High in your time of despair rather than detaching yourself from Him.  And ask for His help in getting you through whatever rough spot you’re in, because falling into sin isn’t the answer.

So in conclusion, falling off the right path happens, in fact, it happens more often than we realize.  For even the scriptures state, “a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief” (Proverbs 24:16).  The key is that you pull yourself together and begin to make your way back to where you are supposed to be.  Doing so may not be easy but it is definitely important, and if one truly has the zeal to get themselves together, this goal can be accomplished. For as the scriptures say, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13).



  1. Amen! Great article Ahnie, Thawadah.

  2. love the post good job very edifying keep up the good work

  3. The cares of this world will choke the WORD. Great topic Rachaa-Shaahn, and thank you!

  4. ahnie this article never gets old to me i love it it really helps me stay focus on what is more important and to not fall into sin no matter what the situation is. every time i read this article its a new story to me i am really glad you wrote article you did such a beautiful job on it you really did.

  5. This was a great article! I know there have been many times where I have lost myself, or have fallen in this walk of faith. I am just glad that I was able to overcome those battles with the help of the Most High and Christ. I really hope that this article helps others when they are going through a rough patch in their walk of faith.

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