It is so easy to point out what other people are doing wrong, but what about worrying about what you do wrong? We are always quick to point out others mistakes and never focus on what we are doing. Each and every one of us is an example to someone else. Whether you know it or not someone is always watching what you do, say, or wear.
We are quick to say behind a sister’s back that her skirt/dress is too short, that her top is too revealing, or her outfit is see-through. If you looked down you might find that maybe your skirt/dress is too short or too tight, or your top is too revealing or your outfit is actually see through!
Maybe it’s not her outfit, you just don’t like how she speaks to brother’s, you feel she is too flirtatious. If you could look at yourself from someone else’s point of view you would see how you bat your lashes when you speak to brothers or how you add that extra switch when you’re walking by them.
It could be that you don’t like how she is raising her children. Either a sister is too mean or too lenient with her kids. Her kids are always running wild, they are messy, they smell, whatever it is you find something you don’t agree with.
It’s possibly her relationship you don’t agree with. You feel she should be a better wife, better mother, or maybe you think she isn’t a good partner for her husband, she should have waited. Everything is an issue.
We know we are to be examples but we don’t try to be examples to our fullest. Everyone from a new sister, a new brother, the children, the teenagers, the stranger on the bus, the lady at the market, your neighbor, EVERYONE see’s your actions or apparel. Some might pay attention some might not but we still need to be that perfect example of a righteous woman in whatever we do.
Always remember we represent the Most High and Christ!! When it comes to appearance we should always look well put together. I’m not saying be vain but put some thought into your outfit and hair. My suggestion would be to stand in front of a mirror and raise your arms up, check out how high your outfit raises, is it still modest? Then stand somewhere the sun or a bright light is shining and check out if its see through. When it comes to how we speak to brethren, think before you speak and check your actions and intentions. Focus on yourself and how you can be a positive influence. I think of it like this, would I be ok with my daughter dressing like me or being like me? Find someone you care about whether it be a daughter, niece, sister, anyone and think of it the same way. Maybe it’ll help you. I feel like many times we only think of ourselves and forget about the what we are teaching the children. Many times i have been upset that people my family and I care about have done things that are a bad example of the people we say to be. I find myself having to speak to my kids regarding certain situations and explaining things to them so they don’t make the same mistakes others have made. In conclusion, Don’t be selfish, be a better individual, focus on yourself, be a better example, and when you see something wrong in another individual check yourself out, you might be in the same error.
Titus 2:3-5; “3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given too much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to lov their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not bashemed.”
Titus2:7-8; “7 In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, 8 Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.”
1st Timothy 5:14; “…guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”