Let’s just get one thing straight, sex is meant for those who are married. For as it says in Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”. In today’s society people do not realize that sex is meant only for those who are willing and ready to consummate and live in a marriage. For as it says in Exodus 22:16, “if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife”. This means that sex it is supposed to be with your spouse, not with a boyfriend or a random guy you met at the club, etc., but with someone you’re willing to spend the rest of your life with.
Sex has become a major topic amongst teenagers and young adults. The majority of people either have or is having sex so it must not be a problem, right? WRONG! Regardless of what the majority is doing, we must stick to what the Most High tells us to do which is to refrain from any sexual activity if one is not married. In other words we must practice abstinence. Many might think that this is a hard thing to accomplish or that it is an edict impossible for them to uphold. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says, “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it”. This scripture is saying that regardless of how hard it may be to maintain abstinence, it is something you are more than capable of accomplishing.
Refraining from sexual activity does not mean the end of the world. If it does, well then it becomes clear that your mindset is more focused on matters of the flesh rather than the spirit. Romans 8:5-8, “For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God”. If your thought process is only about sex well then you have internal work to do because your focus is only on that which is carnal. The Most High is a spiritual being “and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth” (John 4:24). So take your focus off of fleshly affairs, because they can wait, and put your focus on building a relationship with the Most High, because that can’t. Ecclesiasticus 5:7, “make no tarring to turn to the Lord, and put not off from day to day: for suddenly shall the wrath of the Lord come forth, and in thy security thou shalt be destroyed, and perish in the day of vengeance”.
Hopefully these scriptures will help you in your daily walk and assist you when you fall into the temptation of wanting to indulge in sexual activities outside of the order of marriage. Christ said, “the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41). So no matter what, resist the desires that your flesh wants you to do and indulge in what the Most High, Christ and the scriptures say. Also remember to be wise regarding the situations that you put yourself in especially if refraining from sexual activity is something you struggle with. 1 Peter 3:8 says, “Be sober, be vigilant; because you adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour” and he will surely use such a weakness against you in order to do so.