Unwritten Rules of the Workplace

Starting a new job can be intimidating, especially if you have never worked in that type of field. It will definitely take time and patience to learn everything that is expected of you.  You are given handbooks, policy manuals and guidebooks for basic rules, but what about the unwritten rules?  We can’t just disregard what is not written. For example: “Well it doesn’t say that I can’t sing loud in my cubicle”.   What is not written comes down to common sense. We know we have to have manners and be respectful but sometimes we don’t think of everything else. Here is a list that will, Most High willing, help you get through the new job experience.

1. First and foremost, remember that you are an Israelite and that you represent the Most High at all times! (I know I say it a lot and my kids can attest to that also, but there is no other way to put it). You might get looked at funny because of your modest apparel or fringes and ribbon of blue, but don’t let that phase you. Remember why you are wearing them and that you are not there for them. You are there to do your job.

Ephesians 4:1; “I THEREFORE, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called,”

This is a great example of how people should feel around us,

1st Samuel 18:14-15; “And David behaved himself wisely in all his ways; and the LORD was with him. 15 Wherefore when Saul saw that he behaved himself very wisely, he was afraid of him.”

2. Positive Impressions – Stand up straight, look at people when they are speaking, make eye-contact, and smile.

Ecclesiasticus 19:29-30; “A man may be known by his look, and one that hath understanding by his countenance, when thou meetest him. 30 A man’s attire, and excessive laughter, and gait, shew what he is.”

3. Apparel – You will be told about this during the hiring process and it can be found in the employee handbook they provide you with.  It can be confusing to hear corporate, business, smart, resort or corporate casual, business casual, smart casual, resort casual. Shoes are also mentioned, some jobs don’t allow tennis shoes, open toe sandals, or 6 inch heels. Be sure to ask for clarification so you don’t show up to work wearing something inappropriate.  If pants are required, be sure to bring with you a religious waiver so that you can be allowed to wear a skirt.


Proverbs 12:24; “The hand of the diligent shall bear rule: but the slothful shall be under tribute.”

5. Office/Desk/Personal Space Decoration – This will also be a big representation of you and the Most High. Keep it neat and keep things that you put up limited. Ask yourself this: Who will see it? What does it say about me? Is it distracting? Did I go overboard?

6. Food – Always keep your eating in the designated area (lunch room). Your desk is not for eating and just because you see others do it doesn’t mean you should too. Unless you absolutely need to and management is ok with it, but don’t make it a habit.

7. Personal calls – Keep all personal emails, calls, or texts limited to your break or lunch. It is very unprofessional to be seen texting away on your work time. Respect internet policy – It is not for checking emails, checking your updates on social media, or for shopping. It is not for personal use.  Neither is it wise to send and store personal information on the work computer, most of the time their IT or Tech department is watching.

8. Respect peoples work space and supplies – Give everyone their privacy, don’t look over their shoulder, and don’t just grab things off of peoples desks.   When working with documents only read over what you are supposed to, not what you want to. Basically don’t be nosy.

9. Conversation – A. Don’t chime into conversations not directed at you. B. Check the level of your conversation so you don’t disturb others. C. Be extremely careful what you choose to share with others about your personal life. It can come back to haunt you. D. Don’t ask others to share about their personal life with you; it can make people feel uncomfortable.

Ecclesiasticus 11:9; “Strive not in a matter that concerneth thee not; and sit not in judgment with sinners.”

Ecclesiasticus 9:15; “Let thy talk be with the wise, and all thy communication in the law of the Most High.

10. Work cliques – Don’t form or choose a clique to hang with. This will cause distraction and tension and more than likely it will be a gossip circle.

1st Corinthians 15:33; “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”

There is nothing wrong with having lunch with people  but remember you are not there to make friends. It is a job. Maybe read your bible, go on http://truenation.org/ or http://truenation.org/tnwomen/.  Take your lunch time to be able to regroup your thoughts and have a moment to yourself, away from all the craziness.  If you are a married woman, you should in no wise fraternize with male co-workers.

Ecclesiasticus 9:9 “Sit not at all with another man’s wife, nor sit down with her in thine arms, and spend not thy money with her at the wine; lest thine heart incline unto her, and so through thy desire thou fall into destruction.

11. Don’t interrupt people while they are on the phone and definitely don’t sit around waiting for them to get off the phone, it’s inappropriate and makes the caller uncomfortable. Do something else and return later; unless of course it’s an emergency.

12. Mistakes/ Correction – You will make plenty of mistakes and it’s understandable when you are new. Here is the proper ways to handle a situation when you have made a mistake: A. Listen carefully to the mistake you have made, B. Take responsibility, C. Show interest in fixing the error, D. Apologize and move on.  If you need clarification be sure to ask, it’s the only way to learn and avoid making the same mistake. If you come across something new ask questions, don’t try to figure it out on your own.

Here is what you don’t want to do when approached with a mistake: A. Don’t blame others, B. Don’t make excuses, C. Don’t raise your voice to be at the other person’s level, D. Don’t interrupt, E. Don’t be confrontational. Think before you answer and how, it’s not what you say but how you say it. Remember to always listen first and respond second. After accepting your mistake DO NOT hold any grudges, learn from the mistake and continue with your day.

Ecclesiasticus 11:8; “Answer not before thou hast heard the cause: neither interrupt men in the midst of their talk.”

James 1:19-20; “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: 20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”

Start your day with a prayer to the Most High, he will guide you and make it a prosperous day.

Proverbs 3:6; “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”

Throughout the day if the job is becoming overwhelming meditate with the Most High to get you through it.

Ecclesiasticus 6:37; “Let thy mind be upon the ordinances of the Lord, and meditate continually in his commandments: he shall establish thine heart, and give thee wisdom at thine own desire.”


  1. This was super helpful and helped me to recognize where I need improvement. Thawadah Sis!

  2. This has really good information and advice for when you are getting a first job or getting a new one…good article!

  3. Great article! when I get my first job someday hopefully soon, I will most definitely keep all that was mentioned in the front of my mind.

  4. This is a great article, thought provoking with a lot of wise advice. Thanks for this sis!

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