When Did It Become A Crime To Love Your Husband?

“No God, No Masters” a simple, yet powerful title to Margaret Sanger’s little newspaper that set the stage for the women’s rebellion of the 20th Century.  To defy authority, convention and tradition is to victoriously achieve empowerment.  To love your husband – your master – is criminal because to love requires submission and obedience to him.

I John 5:3: “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.”

Not loving or loving your husband less than deserved ensures the success of conquering and dividing the family unit.

Ecclesiasticus 36:25 (Apocrypha): “Where no hedge is, there the possession is spoiled…”

Critical to the success of the women’s liberation movement required that the God-given head of the family unit be changed to the woman.  She has become the new male, the head.  She has power, a career, her own money, choice of birth control, abortion, artificial insemination and easy access to a quick divorce.  A husband has been demoted to a mere “want” and is definitely no longer a “need.”

Our Heavenly Father and Christ instituted marriage to be a life-long covenant where the man and woman become ONE flesh physically and spiritually.

Genesis 2:24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

They are ordained to be intertwined together to walk the journey of life loving the other as oneself, supporting each other, uplifting each other, carrying each other’s burdens, exhorting one another, bringing joy one to the other, laughing together, crying together, dancing together, devoted one to the other in health and sickness, in good times and bad, with money or no money, when peaceful and in time of adversity.  Your husband is your TRUE BEST FRIEND!  What crime is there really in loving your best friend?

Ecclesiasticus 6:14 (Apocrypha): “A faithful friend is a strong defence: and he that hath found such an one hath found a treasure.”

The reality is that the world today just doesn’t want to follow order or adhere to any laws or rules.  We live in an era of brazing your own path at any cost, never following someone else and where the selfishness of only looking out for number one, ME, is right.  But this way of living has not been ordained by the Most High and Christ.  A righteous ORDER or chain of command was set in a marriage to benefit, nourish, protect, flourish and support the WE, not to tear it down or belittle it.

I Corinthians 11:3: “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”

Chaos/disorder brings forth confusion, weakness, and despair, NOT ORDER!

I Corinthians 14:40: “Let all things be done decently and in order.”

Anything done right has order.  A business has a CEO, a school a principal, a church an elder, an army a general, a country a president, a class it’s students, the human body a brain, and a child his parents.  Should a child resent or hate his parents because they are his head?  Should an administrator consider himself weak and submissive only because he reports to the CEO?  Is the lieutenant unnecessary in the army because there is a general?  Not at all, each is valuable and each has an important role to carry out.

Why then should a wife feel like a doormat simply because she loves the husband who is her head?  The sun is a great light, but the earth cannot survive with it alone.  The moon, which reflects the light of the sun, is just as necessary.  Without her light, we would not be able to know when to keep the holy convocations, the oceans and seas would not bring in the tide and our bodies would not rest appropriately.  A husband and wife share a similar relationship.  The husband has a position of leadership and the wife reflects the light of her husband.  Neither one can do without the other, together they make the whole.

I remember having many excellent teachers while in school and never once did I feel like a slave to my teacher or that the teacher didn’t have his/her best interest at heart for me.  My excellent teachers were my heroes.  But my hero now is my righteous husband, the man who is being instructed by the spirit of the Most High and Christ giving him the knowledge, wisdom and understanding to do and teach what is right.

Ezekiel 34:31: “And ye my flock, the flock of my pasture, are men, and I am your God, saith the Lord God.”  What is there not to love?

Some choose to stubbornly confuse the headship of a man with a license for him to do whatever he wants, to boss around his wife, to abuse his wife, to ignore the needs of his wife, in other words, to be a tyrant.  These acts are not the acts of a godly man.  They are of a man going against the ways of the Most High and Christ.  A man’s God-given position of leadership requires that he ensure his wife stays on the path of righteousness by teaching her and his family the holy commandments, staying ahead and protecting them against the evil wiles of Satan, physically and spiritually nourishing the marriage with SELFLESS LOVE, loving his wife as he would love himself, listening with ears of patience, being humble, forgiving and fighting for the bond of unity of the two as one.

Ephesians 4:2-4: 2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; 3 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 4 There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;”

Colossians 13:12-15:12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.  14 And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.  15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.”

Not only is there nothing wrong with loving your husband, but why would you not want to love him with passion, with devotion, with commitment and without reservation.  Would you truly be happy knowing someone only loved you to a certain extent?  Yes, there are problems and shortcomings, but those are true of you too.  Stop pointing fingers, start with the fixing of self and love your husband by all means.

CRIMINAL is to NOT love your husband.  LAWFUL and desirous is to love him completely, wholeheartedly, second only to the Most High and Christ!


  1. Lovely article, I think no matter how low long someone has been in the truth, reminders are always good. Being in subjection to our husbands should not be grievous, we should be doing it with gladness. Love each other with that true Love that Most High commanded us and nothing can go wrong.

    Ephesians 5:33: “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

  2. No It’s not Sister ,It’s one of the greatest gifts the Most High has given us as women. A partner for life. Someone to talk to. Sometimes your better half. You love him with all your hreat.

  3. I agree with my mother and sister Ruthy. “Lovely article” Parah!

  4. Great article! Very strong points that provoke habitual change. Thawadah.

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