It is unfortunate that many relationships established in the world do not stay bonded while transitioning into the Truth. As you continue to grow, you will learn to let go and understand that this was for the best. When there are no children in the relationship, it may be easier to move on. But what if you did have children within the relationship? The situation will be challenging for your child/ren as well as for you until your children are mature enough to make their own choice about following in the ways of the Most High.
When one parent aligns their life with the laws, statutes and commandments of God and the other chooses to live their life in complete contrary to the other, the child/ren are stuck in the middle. Again, a situation like this will be challenging, but as Israelite women, we must exercise faith and handle this delicate situation with wisdom. If you are the mother, I would like to share some advice with you to hopefully, if used, will help you should you find yourself in a similar situation.
What are YOU not doing or doing wrong?
From the moment you embark upon your journey with the Most High, you must understand there is way more to it than just accepting you are an Israelite. GREAT correction within yourself is to be done to fill the shoes of this GREAT name. There is nothing wrong with those (the father) in the world when they are unconscious or in complete denial to their sinful ways. You, however, are now conscious and well aware of the changes needed to be made.
You may find yourself meddling in the past which may cause you to miss your spouse or the things you both once had. At this point, you must quickly understand that he (your ex-spouse) is not standing beside you for a reason. Leave the past behind you and focus on what is before you.
“And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” ~Luke 9:62
Of course as a mother you want what’s best for your child/ren, but ranting, expressing attitude, and arguing is not what is best for your child and certainly will hurt the situation.
“A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence. He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.”~Proverbs 13:2, 3
Women of the world attempt to deprive the father of seeing his children and or giving him any parenting rights. They are loud and unruly, they seek vengeance and are malicious while committing spiteful acts to hurt the father all because they let their emotions rule their logic.
An emotional woman is out of control and is only an evil contributor in the vicious cycle of the curses (Deuteronomy 28:58). Spiteful acts as those mentioned above is considered hate towards your own brethren, and the Most High speaks of it:
“Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbor, and not suffer sin upon him. Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself: I am the LORD.” ~Leviticus 19:17, 18
“See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.” ~1 Thessalonians 5:15
It is normal for the two individuals that were once in a marital relationship to not want to talk to each other let alone be in the same room together. Yes, time may heal, but your children need you focused and willing to communicate.
“But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.”~Hebrews 13:16
Your child/ren are the only subject you should communicate about. His and your personal life should be off limits. This will keep old feelings, arguments and even more disagreements from arising. Remember, the way he lives his life is completely opposite to yours. Save yourself the extra problems and stay focused. The Most High will handle everything else.
He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he.”~Proverbs 16:20
If there is an important matter that needs both parents to agree and decide upon, like vaccinations for example, get used to preparing what you want to say and prove. Even providing facts like research based on your point. You don’t necessarily have to be tech savvy and create a PowerPoint, but simply print out what you have researched. Make it easy, not difficult. Be confidant in what you believe in. When you do get the chance to sit down with the father, get straight to it like it’s business. You never want to lose their attention, especially if you have a lot of information.
“Prepare what to say, and so thou should be heard: and bind up instruction, and make answer.” ~Ecclesiasticus 33:4
The opposite of humility is pride. We must rid ourselves of pride from within as fast and as much as possible.
“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall. Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud” ~Proverbs 16:18, 19
When you rid yourself of pride, you are able to see more clearly all of your imperfections. Once you acknowledge and understand your imperfections are of no profit in your walk with Christ, you will see that they are of no benefit in the world either.
“Is not this the fast that I have chosen? To loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke?” ~Isaiah 58:6
Fasting is a perfect method to strengthening your spirit. Your spirit will prevail over the flesh putting it into subjection. The flesh’s prideful ways will abate, allowing your spiritual understanding, which is of righteousness, to evaluate and assess. Fasting also makes your prayers more vital/expedient. The Most High will acknowledge you are humbling yourself in much need of him and desperately waiting his assistance.
“Then I proclaimed a fast there, at the river of Ahava, that we might afflict ourselves before our God, to seek of him a right way for us, and for our little ones, and for all our substance.” ~Ezra 8:21
“So we fasted and besought our God for this: and he was intreated of us.” ~Ezra 8:23
Rarely are things instantaneous with the Most High. Patience is one of the fruits needed to nourish the spirit and become closer to our Father in Heaven.
“For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man seeth, why doth he yet hope for? But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.” ~Romans 8:24, 25
A situation with the father of your child/ren may seem as though it will never get any better, at first, but we are to wait on the Lord. Single parenting is challenging! Parenting was made for two, but you are not alone! The creator of all fathers is right beside you. Enduring while continuing your normal day to day routine and even other obstacles giving you tribulation is the perfect battlefield for patience to be born. It may feel like everything is closing in and there is no air to breathe, please remember this, both good and evil are standing by waiting on your reaction. Endure RIGHTEOUSLY. The longer you are able to wait and keep cool, calm, and collected while exercising the laws of the Most High, the more endurance you will build. Again, please endure righteously!
“The hand of the diligent shall bear rule.” ~Proverbs 12:24
How important is it for your children to learn about who they truly are? VERY IMPORTANT!! To know they are of a holy ancestry and like their big brother Christ more than conquerors. For them to know and understand there are Holy Laws that must be followed to obtain salvation. And to faithfully one day choose on their own to honor the Most High.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” ~Proverbs 22:6
All this knowledge must be taught to your children by their very first teacher which is you! Being a teacher takes great diligence!
“That thou mightiest fear the Lord thy God, to keep all his statutes and commandments which I command thee, thou, and thy son, and thy son’s son, all the days of thy life;” Deuteronomy 6:2
“And thou shall teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” ~Deuteronomy 6:7
And of course children naturally learn by looking at you. Being a righteous example is the best way your children will learn, so diligence is required in this case and also to be sure you are staying in tune with holiness.
“In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.” ~Titus 2:7, 8.
Pay attention and know your child/ren. In situations as this, your child/ren being divided between households will be stressful on them. They will begin to express frustration and even resentment. Children naturally want to please their parents. Always teach them how the Most High comes first. How he is the PARENT of us all and we should seek to please him ultimately.
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” ~Matthews 30:66
Faith +? = PROFIT
“What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food, And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit? Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works.” ~James 2:14-18
Each individual is in the Truth because they heard the instruction of the Most High, and by faith they choose to follow in hope of a glorious outcome. Appling the knowledge, wisdom and understanding of the Most High indeed leads to a better outcome in even this type of situation. The more faith we apply, the more our children’s spirit will also apply faith. Faith and works together will profit even this situation.
We all have our challenges, and there is growth within each and every one of them.
“Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” ~Hebrew 12:11
Always do your very best and train yourself to never do anything less than your best. This is only one type of trial that some Israelite women experience. In this knowledge of Truth, Israelites experience many adverse situations and each time the adversity can be greater than the one before. “The Most High keeps us in the gym (we live in it),” as my Elders says. The “gym” is an analogy in which strength and endurance is built. I love this analogy!
The above list is only some of the key areas you should consider working on improving to better this type of situation. The last thing we as mothers want to do is live up to the sad cliché of “Baby Mamma Drama!!” We are better than that awful curse! We are Israelite Mothers!!